Friday, January 29, 2010

Company Girl Coffee



Today I am thinking of an old friend who is having a difficult week. She is the mother of one of my best friends, and also the mother of my first boyfriend. She played a HUGE role in my teenage years, and was like an extra mother to me. As an adult, she has become a trusted friend.

In November, my friend was diagnosed with breast cancer. After two surgeries in December, this month she started chemotherapy and radiation treatments. This week, her hair began to fall out. Last night, her husband shaved off the last of her hair for her.

I remember when my own Mom had to go through this same step. My Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer in June of 2002. The surgeries were hard physically and emotionally, the chemo made her miserable, but one of the hardest steps was loosing her hair. When it was reduced to clumps here and there, she asked my Dad to shave the rest off for her. As women, we identify so much of our look and personality through our hair. To suddenly be stripped of this is shocking. My mother described it feeling as though she had to walk in public naked.

I was at my parents home when my dad shaved her hair, and it is a moment I will never forget. The tenderness between my parents. My mother's bravery. My mom asking a 3 1/2 year old Evan to hold her hand while her hair fell down around her. Evan standing next to her, holding her hand and patting her shoulder. All of it is etched into a forever memory. When it was all done, Evan looked at her and said, "Wow! That looks cool! Now you are my circle head Grandma!" We all laughed, and it was that child like humor that saved the moment.

And so, as my friend also goes through this experience this week, I am praying for her. I am praying that she is blessed with health, comfort, and peace. But most of all, I pray that she receives strength to get through the tougher moments.

If you could spare a second, please pray for her. The power of prayer is amazing! I know it will help immeasurably.

14 comments:

Tawna said...

I'm so sorry for you friend. That has to be really hard. I'll say a prayer!

Melinda said...

I will say a prayer for your friend.

Amanda P. said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. I will be praying for our friend!

Jeff said...

Eek. Please tell her that I am thinking of her and praying for her. (and you can also tell R & K & B that I'm praying for all of them too) It's gotta be tough for them.

Lea said...

What a sweet and thoughtful blog. I will definitely say a prayer for your friend. This is my first visit with you and I so enjoyed it. A happy week-end to you!

secondofwett said...

I just prayed for your friend that the Lord would give her encouragement and strength. Amen.

carikaufm said...

I am praying for your friend. Thank you for this post...it is so beautiful!

joyceandnorm said...

Said a prayer for your friend. I'm sure she's blessed if she has you in her life to be rounding up prayer warriors for her.

Karen said...

Sorry to hear about your friend. I've said a prayer for her just now.

Take care,
Karen

marineswife said...

So sorry about your friend. Cancer just stinks. :(

One More Equals Four said...

So sorry for your friend! I have said a prayer for her, and you are right...prayer changes things!

John and Teresa said...

we will be praying for your dear friend. i love the story of your mom & dad and evan at 3 years old -- so sweet.

Rachel Anne said...

Prayers for your friend. My sister in law just had a double mastectomy and then a follow up surgery yesterday to move skin from her back to the front to replace damaged tissue. She will not do chemo, but this whole thing has opened my eyes to breast cancer and how devastating it can be.

Beautiful story of your mom...thank you.

Anonymous said...

Praying for your friend! Thank you for sharing so that we might join you in praying and be more aware of what one goes through when dealing with breast cancer.
Your mom's story is both heart wrenching and touching. You obviously have a very close family. That is precious!
Blessings,
LydiaCate

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